I am so ready for this year to be over and to begin anew again. 2012 was a very difficult year for me on many levels and I don’t know that I’ve fully recovered, but I am ready to be done with the heart ache the year presented me with. As of a few weeks ago, I am another year older so it’s always the bizarre quiet time between Christmas and New Years that gets me thinking about the year ahead. And the changes I want to make.
I was fired twice in 2012 — and each time was an utter shock to my system as I had never been fired before. The first time in March, I suspected it was coming because I was working with a group of men who didn’t understand me let alone like me, and I was completely frustrated by their small thinking… but I still was upset when I got fired because they didn’t even try. I tried every day and they didn’t even bother talking to me. One day shortly before the firing came down, I walked into the company kitchen and everyone was in there. I looked at everyone, no one looked back at me, so I turned around and walked out. I knew it was over. I am glad to be done with that company but still somewhat bothered that they think it was all my fault that I didn’t do the job successfully. Their wipespread lack of communication skills were huge in the non-success of the position. I have still not been replaced because “they hate marketing”.
The second firing came much quicker and swifter and the sting was felt much deeper. Another group of small-minded men who had no idea I was going to be as opinionated as I am. I was shown the door about 3 months into the gig and honestly did not see it coming until about one hour before it happened (I was locked out of all social media accounts!). I am too smart and too old to accept being treated poorly by men bosses just because they are bosses. I spent much of my younger years working for awful men and I just cannot do it anymore. So while I wish I was able to walk out on these situations, I’m glad I was fired because it made me move even quicker towards a job that feels less like a job and more like something I want to be spending my time doing.
I am now working as a small business coach, helping business define their voices online through various different channels. I like doing this and I enjoy the interesting people I am working with. I’m still very new in the business but I am confident that I will grow into this and develop my skills. I am looking to perhaps be a VA, a virtual assistant, so that I may do the work from anywhere in the world and not be tied to Chicago. I don’t think I will move out of Chicago, but I would like to leave it a LOT more in 2013 because I have been trapped here for sometime, given all the financial hardships that come with losing two jobs in less than a year. (actually less than six months!) I have been operating in automatic drive this year because I had no time to fall a part when I desperately needed to find a job.
I stuffed so many feelings down, turned down opportunities to be with friends and as of late, have stopped working out — all things that I will defintely be resurrecting in my daily 2013 life. I stopped looking at men in 2012; well, I turned a blind eye to men because the year was such an emotional roller coaster. I had a few dates over the past few months, but I honestly cannot look to getting involved with someone if I have finacial stress, let alone I need a job stress as well. But I look to change that this year. I’m ready to get back into the game. I won a 10-day trip to Turkey from writing a short essay on how I would spend a 3-day New Year celebration, and I am super excited about this trip! But also to get back to one of my most favorite things in the world; traveling. I am aligning myself to do just that and to live it through blogging and instagram (will I even stay with instagram? Who knows, maybe not!) and other social media channels. While I wish to do less social media and have more real life experiences, I don’t think I will ever shake the social media habits completely, but I do want to use it smarter. With intention and not just to be ridiculous.
Lately it seems all the social media sites want you to have a more visual experience by allowing you to add photos to speak to who your brand is and what your brand is doing. It’s also another way to consistently brand your business with a visually united front across all platforms. Or perhaps you are branding YOURSELF, which is always a good idea too.
In a perfect world, all image sizes would be the same, but that would be too easy because each site has its own set of rules. The dimensions are as follows FOR NOW, but things change quickly, so it is not recommended to spends too much time working exact dimensions for each site; it will change eventually.
Cover Photos: 851 x 315 pixels
Note: If you upload an image that’s smaller than these dimensions, it will get stretched to this larger size, so try to create something with these specific dimensions.
To get the best quality image and fastest load times for your Page, upload a JPG or PNG file that’s less than 100 kilobytes.
Page Profile Pictures: 180 x 180 pixels
This displays at 160 x 160 pixels, however, the photo you upload must be at least 180 x 180 pixels. Your cover photo and profile go together, so you can have fun creating an overall look.
Profile Picture: 128 x 128 pixels
Must be less than 700kb when uploaded, which is resized to 48 x 48 pixels in the stream.
Background Sizing (Visible space between left side and content) 2560 x 1600 pixels*
*This is a bit tricky, as the background is left-aligned and will show up differently based on the screen resolution of the user’s browser.
90% see 71 pixels
65% see 199 pixels
40% see 242 pixels
20% see 279 pixels
Cover Photo: 940 x 180 pixels
This can be animated using a .gif
Profile Picture: 250 x 250 pixels
As with Facebook, your profile photo and cover photo are together, so keep that in mind when designing your cover photo. The two photos should flow together to show a complete picture of your brand.
LinkedIn (company page)
LinkedIn allows for the least amount of customization/branding on your company’s LinkedIn page.
Spotlight Banner: 640 x 220 pixels
Standard Logo: 100 x 60 pixels
File options are PNG, JPEG, or GIF; max size 2 MB.
Square Logo: 50 x 50 pixels
The square logo is used in the network updates. File options are PNG, JPEG, or GIF; max size 2 MB.
The specification of all these image sizes are a fairly recent implementation, so it’s always a good idea to stay loose and know that things will change, as they have been since the beginning of social media.
Have fun with your images — first impressions do count here!
I grew up in Crystal Lake, Illinois, which meant that Lake Geneva, Wisconsin was just a hop, skip and a jump to get across the Wisconsin border, where things were a bit more readily available in my younger years. It also felt like a world away from the cornfields and cows of Crystal Lake because the town has always felt like vacation, with the availability of taffy, fudge and paddle boats in the quaint and cute little downtown.
My Junior Prom was held at The Abbey and I have attended many of public and private events there over the decades, all with very fond Wisconsin memories, but none recently until I was invited by Duong Sheahan, of Live Healthier & Happier, to spend a complimentary weekend this past June to get to know the new & improved Abbey Resort and Avani Spa in downtown Fontana, Wisconsin on Lake Geneva.
The Abbey looks just as I remembered it from years gone by when driving up to it, and especially the atrium dining room that gives it an old world feel. But that’s about where my recollections stopped because it has been spruced up and remodeled to accomodate all your comfort and technological needs to enjoy a peaceful stay. There is wifi coverage in the rooms but not so much in the lobby, which is fine, unless you’re there for a heavy online stay. But this is Wisconsin so why not relax a bit and enjoy the sights and sounds.
Just as you may find it difficult to find margarine in butter-rich Wisconsin, you won’t have a hard time finding a New Glarus Spotted Cow beer, as it is only sold in Wisconsin, and many of us Flatlanders are quick to stash some in our suitcases when headed home because it is that delicious (also the allure of having something that’s hard to get is brilliant on New Glarus’ part).
So after the drive up from Chicago, a delicious and huge brunch spread at the Fontana Grill, I was ready to relax and see what the Avani Spa had to offer. I opted for the Aromatherapy Retreat Wrap and yowzah it was delightful. I could barely walk afterwards, I had apparently released that many toxins, which is the point of it. After being scrubbed with salts and then massaged with oils, you are then wrapped in hot linens and a foil blanket and then left alone to bake. Because it can be a little claustrophobic, the masseuse does not leave you for too long to make sure you don’t go berserk. I did not, thankfully. I then slithered to the indoor pool and enjoyed some cucumber water until I was stable enough to carry on with my day. It was a much needed and delightful treatment, I would like it have it every week if possible.
There were four of us in the group and after our spa treatments, we all went our separate ways to explore or relax or whatever we wanted. I chose to grab a bike from the recreation center and rode around the lake until I was informed that no bikes were allowed on the path; it was a walking path, so I jumped off immediately and rode the back streets of Fontana. Again it was lovely and I’ll always be grateful that this little peach of a town is in Chicago’s backyard, yet far enough away to feel like you are in Germany or something. ha.
After a rest-up and refreshing, we all met for dinner at the Fontana Grill and it was a delicious meal that stretched over about three hours. It’s moments like this you realize you are not in a big city; the courses are parsed out and you’re forced to talk to your friends or family; whomever you are dining with. All of our instincts were to say, “c’mon let’s move this thing along!” But instead we rolled with the punches and enjoyed a fabulous seafood dinner and delicious wine suggested by our server. And for some reason we acted like silly gooses before we went in for dinner, I suppose because WE CAN!!
The remodeled rooms are beautiful at The Abbey and of course the free wifi kept me there probably a bit longer than if there was not, and after a good night’s rest — something powerful about that Wisconsin air that knocks you out — we met for a yoga class with Julie, the Director of Events at The Abbey. I t was lovely to start the day this way, and we were all super hungry by the time we got to The Waterfront Grill for lunch and a trip wrap-up.
It was fantastic to spend this weekend at The Abbey and to see all the efforts they have made to enhance and beautify your stay with them. They have also made some great strids in jumping into the world of social media; they hold photo contests on their Facebook page, where you must guess where a photo was taken to have the chance to win a gift certificate for the spa, and they have joined Instagram, where they post gorgeous photos of the property and events. This past week on Twitter they held a “Your Experience Photo Contest” where you had to capture the best of your Lake Geneva experience for the chance to win a night’s stay at the resort. They boast a lively Pinterest board and also have a Youtube channel, highlighting events and reminders that even in winter you can have a blast in Fontana.
I heart Wisconsin; always have always will. It’s a great get-away from Chicago and there’s something for everyone to do. My sister-in-law has recently purchased a house just off Linn Pier in Lake Geneva, so I look forward to spending more time up there in the coming months. I want to see it in the winter as well!
For me personally, a country drive is sometimes the best meditation of all….
In 2001, before 9/11, I set off on a 2-month sabbatical to San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, to teach a dance class and take a well deserved break after completing a project on a global business theater in New Jersey. I chose San Miguel because I had taken a Gabrielle Roth workshop at Escalon in Big Sur the year prior and wanted to further my studies. One of my friends from Escalon had already moved to SMA and was teaching yoga. She called me one day and said, “Hey Meags! The dance teacher here is about to leave because she’s having a baby, why don’t you get your butt down here and teach for a while?”
After planning and whatnot, I arrived in San Miguel on June 29, 2001, ready to begin my two-month sabbatical and to get to know Mexico, a place I had not yet seen before. It’s a beautiful mountainous town, not desert-ee or covered with cacti and lazy donkeys, but rather it’s considered to be the San Francisco of Mexico; it never gets too hot or too cold (well, not for too long because I certainly was hot and cold), has a bustling international artist community and has a big gay community. Oh and Texans, plenty of Texans. Gay and straight.
I was not afraid of anything about this Mexican town yet had I listened to my mother, I would have never gone, which is why I have never listened to my mother. Oh wait, there was one thing I was terrified of and that was scorpions. My roommate didn’t even think of them; I looked for them all the time and guess what? I found them all the time! And usually in my bedroom! On the wall above me! In the middle of the night! I can still literally hear them stitching across the walls… even today the thought of it gives me shivers. Blaaaaah scorpions. And fuzzy spiders. Ok I’ll stop! But other that insect fears, I was totally at peace with this little town and all the new sights and sounds it offered. I adored it.
Today there is a much bigger community of younger people as well, involved in all sorts of digital and technological art projects, but this community has dwindled compared to about 5 years ago. When I arrived for the first time in my mid-thirties, I was considered one of the younger ones, but that would not have been the case had I arrived 10 years later at that age. I was there this past March and saw how the town has exploded with people and construction, yet had also crumbled. When the US has an economic sniffle, Mexico has full-blown pneumonia. And the US had much worse a sniffle. So many businesses have shuttered their doors, much like here, and people have packed up and returned to their homelands, including the people of Mexico. When jobs are scarce here, the Mexican men cannot send money home so it’s a quadruple whammy of hardships in Mexico.
I’m not going to pretend to be educated on the exact reasons why the business of drug cartelling has exploded in Mexico, nor am I going to get into the stats of it, but it’s fairly obvious that this is where the money is in Mexico, if you can stay alive. To read any mainstream news you would think that they are all killing each other throughout the entire country and hanging the bodies over highways so the public can see them die as they shoot them from hidden hillsides. The stories of heads rolling into a night club or even night clubs being set on fire — now these stories make it to our media and it sends a chilling message that all of Mexico is completely corrupt and extremely dangerous.
Ever watch the 10pm Sunday night news in Chicago? It’s a death toll of how many were shot or wounded in the city in the past few days; how many children were injured, buried, mourned. It is perhaps the saddest time slot on TV, which is one of the reasons I don’t watch TV anymore. The killings in Chicago are completely out of control; in a city that claims guns are illegal. Does this news stop people from visiting Navy Pier? Water Tower Place? Wrigley Field? No. No it does not. It may stop some people from getting on a train to come to the City, but for the most part tourism is loud & lively in Chicago. So while there are certainly precautions that need to be taken when heading off to Central Mexico, by no means is it a 24/7 blood bath. Like it is on the South Side of Chicago.
The places that I would avoid in Mexico right now are the border towns and the main highways to move north/south through the country. Although the violence is rather widespread yet focused on the northern part of the country, because this is the main and final push to get the drugs into our country and some would say it’s an all out war zone at the borders. So avoid the border towns. I wouldn’t even do a day trip there as many people used to so, it’s just not worth it.
I would no longer take a bus to Central Mexico as I have many times in the past, because of the growing presence of the Mexican Army and Mexico Federal Police on the highways. And the growing number of rogue police, army or cartels who impersonate these groups so you can never be sure who or what you are looking at — or dealing with.
Once on a bus to Phoenix in 2003, I was awakened in the middle of the night somewhere in the State of Chihuahua, by a machine gun nudging my shoulder, asking for my passport. I did not flinch, I simply reached for my passport and handed it to the soldier. After checking everyone’s passport, the soldiers hauled four Guatamalian immigrants off the bus and then we were on our way. Looking back, I wonder why I wasn’t more freaked out. I had never seen a machine gun before let alone be awakened by one. But when I traveled the buses throughout Mexico, I always went into some sort of altered state, knowing that you have to roll with the punches becasue weird things happen out there in the middle of nowhere. I have also driven through the country a number of times by myself and suffice to say nothing majorly scary or even close to heart breaking happened. Today I would never drive through the country I once called home.
The buses and trucks that travel through Mexico are always being stopped and searched for drugs and immigrants, but these days you can’t be sure if the Mexican solider who is pointing a gun at you and asking to see your passport is an actual Govenrment official, a cartel dressed as a Government official or a Government official who has been paid off to act on behalf of the cartel. Which is why it’s best to avoid busing around Mexico, a once very popular and economical way to travel the country, ever since the train lines were discontinued. These days I would fly directly to the city I am headed for, and for San Miguel de Allende’s it’s Leon/Guanajuato Del Bajio or BJX. Then take a taxi directly to your destination, because no one picks you up from an airport in Mexico, even if they are crazy head over heels love with you!
This past week, I learned of an incident of a Canadian couple that was severely beaten and robbed in their homes in San Miguel. These incidents happen here and there and are never a story we want to hear but it’s especially sensitive when it happens to ex-Pats living in a foreign city. One thing Mexico has always known is that you DO NOT MESS with the foreigners that are visiting or who have chosen to live in Mexico. They are putting money into the country and economy and again you DO NOT MESS WITH THE TURISTAS. But it happens, unfortunately. There is speculation — and only speculation at this time — that it is a small group of disenchanted policemen that committed the crime. So another couple has now returned to their homeland and the stories will be shared, as they should.
Would I go to Mexico today? Yes. If I had the sufficient funds to get me from Point A to Point B directly, and had a secure and safe place to stay. Do I want to go to Mexico right now? No. I think I’ll wait until things start to turn around.
I love Mexico and think it takes a LOT of hits for being a reckless, careless and violent country, but it is a big country, full of many people, places and things and you simply cannot place a generic label on a country of its size. It’s complicated. It’s gorgeous. It’s ugly, It’s rich and it’s poor. And unfortunately there are places in the country where violence is out of control, so just like the South Side of Chicago, I will avoid it for now. But not forever!
“I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” Amen Burnsie!
But this is not that type of love story rather a story of me getting back to what it is I am supposed to be doing with my life. Writing and travelling. But wait, what’s that you say, “you haven’t traveled much at ALL in the past few years, let alone write!” True. I stopped travelling in 2010 after returning home from living in Mexico and Texas and the only writing I’ve done has been in my Diary. I mean journal! But I used to travel A LOT and I’ve lived in seven America cities and three international cities and I look forward to getting back to travelling, because it does make my heart go-a-flutter and this time I’ll blog about it. Yes #BLOGaboudit.
Things are very different now as we are all very well aware. Economic hardships have forever changed our landscapes and I realize I may have to work harder to get where I want to go, and the many rapid-fire fears are screaming at me; but I have been wanting to do this ever since I grew feet. So if I don’t do it now, when do I do it?
Here I place the metaphorical cart before the literary horse. I am also spending my days consulting for small business who need help with their marketing efforts so at first this may be a slow moving horse, but this pony is definitely saddled up and is hankering to get out there and see the world. ANDALE